My name is Lily Fray and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in sex and relationships. I am glad that you are here and that you are taking this next step on your path toward healing.

As a sex and relationships therapist, I know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support around some of the most intimate parts of your life. This is why I am committed to providing a safe and non-judgmental space for my clients. A sense of trust between client and therapist is crucial for effective therapy, especially when dealing with topics that may be deeply personal, complex, or painful to discuss. I believe development of trust and safety is aided by my comfort in talking about all aspects of sex and relationships, allowing my clients to discuss their truths without fear that I will be uncomfortable or judgmental.

Isolation, hopelessness, and shame are all common feelings that can arise when faced with sexual or relationship issues. You don’t have to do it alone. I firmly believe that we heal through connection and community, not in isolation. Working with a qualified therapist can be the first step in building your support team and creating change.

In sex therapy, I support individuals and couples in working through communication challenges, discrepancy in desire, betrayal and lack of trust/infidelity, sexual compulsivity, sexual trauma, sexual inexperience, STI/STDs, sex therapy, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), sexual dysfunction such as erectile dysfunction and vaginismus, and more.

We will explore how past and present hurts may be creating road blocks in your path toward healing. I will support you in moving through stuck emotions/trauma so that you can create space for connection and joy. I am trained in numerous trauma informed approaches, including Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).

I believe that all clients have the inner resources and tools with which to navigate life’s challenges and that it is my job to support clients in identifying and strengthening these tools.

My approach is rooted in Client Centered Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, and Solution Focused Therapy. This means that I support clients in doing insight oriented explorations to process material from early attachment relationships that may be impacting them in the present, while also providing practical tools to address the problems they bring to session. I also integrate many tools from other therapeutic modalities, such as Narrative Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, and more. I consider various aspects of a client's life, including their specific goals, personality, physical health, social relationships, and personal history, to provide a comprehensive approach to treatment based on their individual needs. I provide a collaborative, goal directed, and structured therapeutic space so that my clients can get the most out of therapy.

It is my honor to support clients in deepening their sense of self, in expanding their self-expression, and in developing the life they have always wanted. If you are looking for a safe and supportive space to take another step on your journey toward healing, please reach out for a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation.